Ephesians 5:25

God Has Entrusted You With His Gift!

   Your wife is a gift from God to be loved, cherished, protected, provided for, prayed for, and lifted up with praise. Your wife is not to be your personal punching bag or door mat. Your wife is not to be physically abused or verbally abused. Your wife is a gift from God, a gift that He has entrusted to you. When you took your marital vows it was for richer or poorer, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health; these were vows that entered you into a covenant relationship with God; and God is watching you. If you are like me and your work life takes up a majority of your time during the week, then the time that you get to spend with your wife needs to be quality time. God made woman from man's rib to be your partner, not your slave. I put it this way: I didn't marry my wife to be my personal cook (she is better at that than me), she isn't my maid or housekeeper, she isn't my cleaning lady; my wife is my equal, my partner, the love of my life and I will let her know it every chance I get.

   I go shopping with my wife quite often, grocery shopping at that; when we walk through the market place we do so side by side. My wife doesn't walk behind me, she walks beside me and that's the way that it should be, she is my partner, not my servant. God entrusted me with His awesome gift and I will take care of her and love her unconditionally without hesitation or thought. My wife and I make decisions together and I respect and look for her input on several topics. Honestly, we are such a perfect fit that I need her input because she may know more about something then I do. Our marriage is one where we work together as a team; that's how I feel that God has designed marriage. Marriage is meant to be unconditional love between 1 man and 1 woman and when you include God in the marriage He will bless it.

   Christ gave His life for the church, as men we should be willing to lay down our life for our wives. Would you be willing to die for your wife? I don't even have to think about it, it would come naturally to me, without hesitation I would lay down my life for my wife. I waited my entire life for a wife like Debbie and I made mistakes along the way; one mistake that I won't make is taking my wife for granted.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

Ephesians 5:25

Your wife is your queen, treat her like one!

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Ephesians 5:28-29

Love Your Wife as Yourself!

   Back in February of two years ago my lovely wife was diagnosed with Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia; in short, cancer. We started a journey that day, one that will culminate with her defeating this pesky menace. My wife met me at the place that I used to work for to tell me what her diagnosis was, then she did something beyond my comprehension; she offered me a way out, a way out of our marriage. The thought quite honestly, never occurred to me, the only words that came to my mind was that there was no way a man leaves his partner in a fire. I took my wedding vows seriously, it was a covenant relationship with my wife and with God. There was no way I could leave her, our battle had just begun and she needed to know that God was and is going to be there for her and so am I.

   That night, after I got home I started something that I pray that by the grace of God never ends. I wrote my beautiful wife a love letter, and at the top of the page was a verse for her to read so she would realize God's promises. Every night since then I have written my wife a similar love letter, some are funny, some romantic, some professing my love for her. Through the entire process I want my wife to know that I love her unconditionally. She is the doe of my youth, the love of my life, a precious gem; a gift sent from heaven. My wife is an angel that God has entrusted to me to take care of and love. I cherish my wife, I will provide for her, care for her, love her as Christ loved the church, I will stand up for her and provide for her; most importantly, she will know that she is loved.

   We have had our moments of tears, and then some of laughter, we have even had our cuddle times on the couch watching girly movies. I watch movies with my wife, some I pick out and some she picks out and some we pick out. I know that it means a lot to her for me to watch a romantic movie with her with my arm around her, letting her know that she is the most important person in the world to me. We pray together often and we read or listen to the bible together, because at the center of this relationship there is an awesome God. God gave me wife and I will not fail Him, I will love her as He taught us what love is. I love my wife as I love myself, actually I think I love her more. I have failed God more than once in my life, my wife is far too important for me to fail.

   Together with God we have defeated cancer, together with God we will accomplish all that He has planned for us. We keep God at the center of our relationship because He brought us together and whatever God has joined together no man can separate. I love my wife for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, and in sickness and in health forever. When is the last time you wrote your wife a love letter? I am guessing she would really be shocked to get a simple note of "I Love You," written on it.

So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

Ephesians 5:28-29

Be a real man, tonight tell your wife that you love her and then prove it!

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Ephesians 5:33

Love Your Wife!

   Men, do you love your wife and does she know that you love her? When you get married you make a covenant relationship with your wife and with God. Your wife should be the object of your affection, your love and your most intimate desires. When is the last time that you told your wife that you loved her? I tell my wife that I love her several times a day, but more than that I embrace her in a hug and kiss her often. What did you get your wife for her birthday or Christmas or for Valentine's day? It isn't the amount of money that you spend or the quantity of what you get her, it is the thought that you were thinking of her. When you can't be with her do you call her to tell her that you were thinking of her, do you spoil her with the little things?

   There is a saying that when your wife is happy the house will be happy, but I tell you more; If your wife is happy and she knows that she is loved then you will know that you are loved and respected. Your house will not only be happy but you will be happy as well. On the other hand, if your wife isn't happy then your house will be full of strife and dissention. If your wife isn't the object of your affection then don't expect to be the object of her affection. Do you want your wife to go elsewhere to look for affection? If you take your wife for granted then expect her to take you for granted. You don't know what you have until she is gone. The world today makes divorce far too easy and marriages are thrown away, but this too will have repercussions on you both; now and in the future. If you want to be the king of your household then you had better treat your wife as the queen.

   Even before my wife was diagnosed with cancer I let her know every day that I love her and I will continue to do so. I will cherish my wife like no one but Jesus could, I will protect her, provide for her, pray for her, lift her up and love her beyond words. Since my wife's diagnosis I have written my wife a love letter every day and I will continue to do so. I pray for my wife and I let her know that she is loved beyond compare. My wife is my best friend, my companion, the love of my life and I will do everything I can to let her know that. My wife is a blessing to me, a gift from God and I will cherish this gift that God has entrusted to me. I suggest you do the same and do it now while you still have your wife, the results can be life changing for the both of you.

Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Ephesians 5:33

Men cherish your wife, she is a gift from God.